Kimberly & 'Deep's Wedding

Best of the Post-Wedding Bonanza!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:15:00 -0400

Hey folks -

We’ve stuffed this blog FULL of post-wedding goodness in 4 separate posts! (our videos, our photos, our parting thoughts, & miscellaneous goodness!)

Of course we LOVE all 4 parts, but If you don’t have time (or interest) in perusing it all, here are the 3 things we recommend if nothing else:

Watch at least one of Claudia’s “Sparkle And Shine” videos - honestly they are all good in different ways!
Check out our Top 25 Photos - there were so many great ones, but these are the best of the best!
Read our wrap-up Interview with Ourselves :-)

Thanks! Let us know what you liked… and feel free to poke around some more later - there’s tons of good stuff :-) And thanks for all the LOVE.

‘deep+Kimberly

Post-Wedding Bonanza #1: Videos!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:14:54 -0400

[Ed. Note: Part 1: (this post!) our videos, Part 2: our photos, Part 3: our parting thoughts, Part 4: miscellaneous goodness!]

We have a whole BUNCH of videos that really capture the feel of the whole thing! Claudia Escobar’s are, of course, the best (that’s why we paid her) but even the ceremony video & the time lapse we made are really nice! Check out whatever strikes your fancy….

Sparkle And Shine: We’re so happy we hired a great videographer to capture our wedding! Claudia of Chocolate Films did an amazing job & really captured the feel of the thing. She made 3 videos - a short (1 min), a medium (4 min) and a long (13 min) and each of them is different - pick at least one to watch, they are all so good! And they are good in different ways!
Ceremony Video: And if you missed the ceremony, ‘Deep cut together some of Claudia’s footage to make a more-or-less complete version of the wedding ceremony itself… So if you want to watch ‘Deep cry or Kimberly looking composed & lovely, or hear what Jane, Christopher, Tom ‘Deep or Kimberly had to say (& all were worth it!), check it out….
Time Lapse: We strapped a time lapse camera to one of the poles in the middle of the wedding & this is what we got! It’s pretty cool & fun to watch. Also half way through (after the ceremony) the camera got bumped and shows a nice long shot of Sunday Streets Mission :-)

SPARKLE AND SHINE SHORT VERSION

SPARKLE AND SHINE MEDIUM VERSION

SPARKLE AND SHINE LONG VERSION

WEDDING CEREMONY

WEDDING DAY TIME LAPSE

Post-Wedding Bonanza #2: Photos!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:14:26 -0400

[Ed. Note: Part 1: our videos, Part 2: (this post!) our photos, Part 3: our parting thoughts, Part 4: miscellaneous goodness!]

Oh my god… SO MANY PHOTOGRAPHERS. SO MANY GREAT PHOTOS.

We’ve been buried under the sheer tonnage of photographs we’ve received - but fear not, we have culled & culled and boiled it down two sets - the Top 25 and the Top 100!

NOTE: We took almost none of these shots. We’ll come back & put in photo credits soon - but most of the best photos were taken by our professional photographer, Melissa Mermin. You can purchase copies of her shots (plus bunches not pictured here) at this link. The password is “conley” - note that the purchase link will disappear on 11/15/12.

Top 25 - These are the best of the best! Our 25 absolutely favoritest wedding shots!

Top 100 - If you have a little more time you’ll appreciate the top 100, both the 25 above & 75 more. All of which are quite worth seeing!

Finally - if you really want to see more - we have this set of great pictures of various Friends & Family members from our wedding….

And we’ll leave you with these wonderful tintypes taken at PhotoboothSF (Thanks Vince!). Kimberly & her first-husband, the African Prince…..

Final Thoughts: We Interview Ourselves About Our Wedding!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:13:00 -0400

[Ed. Note: Part 1: our videos, Part 2: our photos, Part 3: our parting thoughts (this post!), Part 4: miscellaneous goodness!]

Lots of folks have asked us lots of questions about our wedding in retrospect - here are some of our faves, asked by our favorite spouses!

K & D as Smart, and Attractive Interviewers: So you kids got MARRIED! How was it!?

K: Our wedding was kinda perfect. Maybe everyone who gets married thinks that (*hopefully* everyone who gets married thinks that!) - but ours turned out exactly the way we hoped - and planned - it would: a fun, fabulous (and kinda quirky) celebration of our awesome city and the amazing lives we’re able to live here, complete with sparkly, bikey, Chinese/Indian-ness.

D: Wow. On the biggest scales, it was perfect :-) It was SUUUUPER fun, and it was meaningful in all the right ways. I loved it :-) I think most people who came really enjoyed it and got a lot out of it too & in the end I think we accomplished something else: our wedding was a great explanation of our lives and why we love them so much to all the folks in our lives who don’t quite get it :-)

To be sure, there were some snafus & stuff that didn’t work out as well as I hoped - but I have ridiculously high expectations :-) But it was pretty ambitious, all said and done, and the most important parts worked out great & the stuff I was most worried about turned out to be the most fun.

Interviewers: And you made up your whole event? How did that work out?

K: We pulled it off!

Let’s be clear: it was a TON of work. Doing it “our way” and not following the typical wedding template meant we planned everything from scratch…which caused confusion for some folks, including us. What *was* typical, though, is that we argued, like all couples do, about important (and some not-so-important) things. I valued the process (almost) as much as the result.

We didn’t set out to do this, but at one point I realized we hosted over 300 people for six events spread across three days. It went off almost without a hitch… mostly because ‘Deep was an INEXHAUSTIBLE planner. I have worked in events for many years (and generally avoid organizing them now) so was amazed at how he thought of every last detail. Sometimes it drove me a little crazy, but it more than paid off (and then some). Thank you again, Pookums!

D: Maybe a little less than K, I didn’t set out to do a non-traditional wedding. I just wanted one that meant something to me. And that meant lots of fun, big tent, zany goodness & it meant local & bikey in a low-carbon kinda way. It also meant really figuring out what marriage means to me & saying it in front of everyone in a way that represented us. It became pretty ambitious because both of us are enthusiasm-based organisms & we jumped on every great idea that bubbled up & said “Let’s do that TOO!” Eventually that led to paralysis & collapse - which turned out to be a good thing, because that got us to figure out what was really essential to both of us & we did those things…. And it was awesome!

Interviewers: So what were your favorite bits?

K: A few favorite things, in no particular order, were:

We didn’t know each other’s remarks or vows before hearing them at the ceremony.
Henna! Our henna artist incorporated both Indian and Chinese marriage motifs, peacocks and the Chinese double happiness character, into the design. It was amazing to have a unique and meaningful piece of temporary art on my body, and I was really sad when it faded.
The bike ride was probably my favorite activity because friends and family who don’t bike around San Francisco were able to understand why I’ve come to love it. Plus, the Conservatory of Flowers has been one of my favorite spots in the city since I was a child.
Wearing my grandmother’s WASP (Women’s Air Force Service Pilot) pin on the zipper of my wedding dress was my favorite small detail - I wanted her to be with me, even though she passed away almost exactly one year earlier.

D: My favorite bits were the bike parade, and the ceremony itself.

We delegated the bike parade to a couple of friends (Dan & John!) and they nailed it! It was so well organized and so much fun. I had been worried about how a lot of newbie-bicyclists from all over the country/world would handle it & our friends made it not only easy, but also a true joy.

And the ceremony was the kind of thing where I think the words both of us said, in the vows and especially in our remarks, really turned out to be worthwhile and meaningful. I think Kimberly’s wedding remarks really effected me & reminded me once again what a ridiculously lucky guy I am.

Honestly, i also loved all the crafts projects in the lead up, as much as they were a ton of work. The moment we hung the big glitter sign in the window was were it all clicked into place in my head & I realized it was really happening & it was going to be awesome.

Interviewers: And how did the public aspect of it work out?

K: One of biggest perks of a public wedding has been meeting so many new people. We’ve already met a ton of neighbors though the parklet, but now folks in the ‘hood have another excuse to say hello and introduce themselves - because they were at our wedding! By including them, they now include us. That connection is stronger, and more touching, than I expected.

D: Just great! Having our wedding at Sunday Streets was such a no-brainer in hindsight - it just tied together soo much for us. And having a party with everyone around you sets a tone that I really cherish. I try to bring that to a lot of things in my life and it always pays off so much more than it is a problem.

Interviewers: What kinda stuff went wrong? Any regrets?

D: PLENTY! :-) Not regrets, but plenty of things went wrong :-) The biggest was in the planning stages - we hired a wedding coordinator AFTER we had run ourselves ragged and done a lot of heavy lifting we should have left to someone else. That being said Christine did a GREAT job & was a huge win. The other biggest snafu was at dinner - we really intended to sit in the middle of the room & when that didn’t happen, it felt like we were more separate from half our guests (Sorry y’all!)

Interviewers: How was the honeymoon?

D: K insisted that we go somewhere warm & beachy - but not interesting enough that we’d feel an intense need to “go see and do everything” - so we went to Miami. It was glorious:

Interviewers: So how’s being married?

K: People keep asking what I think about married life. Actually, *deciding* to get married - getting engaged - was a much bigger shift in our relationship than getting married. That said, there is a subtle, and more important, feeling of contentment and satisfaction - and new depth and dimension to my feelings. I get a little thrill every time I say the words “my husband”. :)

D: It tastes like chicken! Actually K nailed this answer & so I can’t add much. Really YUMMY chicken.

Post-Wedding Bonanza #4: Miscellaneous Goodness!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:12:11 -0400

[Ed. Note: Part 1: our videos, Part 2: our photos, Part 3: our parting thoughts, Part 4: this post: miscellaneous goodness!]

But wait there’s more! A couple of people have asked us about the wedding playlist & others about the vows and remarks & so here is where we’ve collected all that & other miscellaneous goodies from our wedding…

• If you’re curious about our Remarks & Vows, you can read them here… We wrote them ourselves & kept them secret from each other until we said them at the ceremony…

• If you enjoyed the music we played at our wedding ceremony, you can check out the playlist here…

• We really want to thank everyone who donated money from our Gift Page - it really means a lot to us & even more to the organizations that you helped support. If you still want to donate - please do!

• And finally, our wedding wouldn’t have been anywhere near as awesome without the efforts of so many people who helped out! From glitter bombing to spreadsheets, from electrical wheelchairs to invites, from decorative proof of concepts to cutting paper - these folks ROCKED:

Adrian Cotter • Adrienne Johnson • Amy Tanner • Carlee Duncan • Christopher Conley • Dan Nguyen-Tan
Dora Fang • Grace Gellerman • Jane Martin • John Calaway • Kathe Hashimoto • Kay Hoskins • Keri Maijla
Kira Petersons • Laura Hayden • Liz Palatto • Lyle Hayden • Megan Conley • Patrick Conley
Peter Khoury • Steve Allen • Tom Radulovich • Una Chan • William Craven • Yin Yin

And all those names we forgot to put on this list: THANK YOU!

Why This Has Taken So Long!

kimberlyland — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 05:10:26 -0400

Whew-boy!

It’s been an intense two months since we got back from our brief honeymoon! After our vast wedding related efforts we had hoped for some much needed down time - but we had forgotten how we were behind on so MANY things in our lives after months of wedding AND months of new puppy! Kimberly has been busy with plenty of things & ‘Deep has been scrambling to catch up with his job and his various political activities (it’s election season ya know!)

That being said, we’re almost caught up now & look forward to a November that looks a lot like this:

(Thanks for the pic Anita De Lucio)

And if we haven’t reconnected with you so far - we hope to soon! Thanks for your patience with the photos and the like - we hope it is worth the wait!

Psychologically, hanging this was the “this is really...

kimberlyland — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 04:22:00 -0400

Psychologically, hanging this was the “this is really happening!” moment for me (‘Deep)

Today’s Anagram!

kimberlyland — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 14:22:27 -0400

Today’s Anagram!

Wedding Weekend Details

kimberlyland — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 15:09:00 -0400

Last updated: 11am 8/1/2012

Folks - many people have had good questions about more specifics - here are the answers to what has been asked so far! We’ll update this post with more info if need be!

Bike Rental Questions

(for details on the Bike Parade see below)

We have reserved (but not rented) bikes for about 40 people based on the RSVP survey from Bike and Roll.
Bike and Roll will show up with a truck full of bikes on Saturday & you will rent them yourselves (with help from Christine, our wedding coordinator)
The bikes are $28.50 per bike for 3 hours, please bring exact change .
We will have an assortment of bike sizes, but it will be “first come first served.”
If you want to make sure you get a bike, and have a bike that fits you, we recommend renting bikes separately on your own - more info on that here: Bike Options

General Weather Questions

The current forecast says that both Saturday & Sunday will be partly cloudy & 60ºF day / 54ºF.
San Francisco weather is notoriously variable - it can change from hour to hour & block to block.
The answer is always LAYERS, most of the time a tshirt & jeans is a good base for anything & a light jacket for daytime, medium for evening.
If you run warm, shorts are actually a reasonable bet until evening time. Especially if you have a sweatshirt with you in case it gets colder.
If you run cold, having a light jacket during the day & a medium to heavy for the evening will do well.
As for jackets & sweatshirts, having something you can tie around your waist is a good choice.

Event Clothing Suggestions

Saturday Bike Parade: Totally casual - summer wear (for anyone not from SF, this could feel more like fall) but with a reasonable chance it will be a tad cold. Jeans, sneakers, tank top and extra layers are the way to go.
Saturday Dinner: Dinner will be indoor and on the fun side of dressy. Most dinner guests will go directly to the dance party after dinner, it will be a short walk. We won’t be changing between the two events.
Saturday FlashDance: Whatever you feel like. We will be sparkly, shiny, festive, and you will get points for the same, but should wear whatever makes you happy and dancey. Wear (or bring) good dancing shoes, and be sure to bring a jacket.
Sunday Wedding/Sunday Streets: Think summer wedding meets the county fair. Our wedding is basically in the midst of the street festival & guests will probably be roaming the street festival afterwards - so dress for a wedding, but be comfortable to stroll, bike, roam afterwards.

MORE EVENT DETAILS

Saturday Bike Parade:

We will leave from our house, on bikes, at 12:30pm & return around 3
The bike ride will be slow, casual, and beginner friendly
There will be at least one loud, festive, music bike (ours!)
There will be ride monitors and helpers along,
You will be riding at your own risk & should only ride if you feel comfortable doing so
We will be riding roughly 2.5 miles each way, with plenty of stops at lights and the like
We will ride from our house (in the Mission) to the Conservatory of Flowers in Golden Gate Park (doing a modified Wiggle for you SF bikers)
For those of you not coming to the ride, check this out (!) and feel free to roam the neighborhood & explore!

Saturday Flash Dance:

FlashDance is a series of free, outdoor dance party’s ‘Deep has been putting on since 2005
No, they aren’t strictly legal. They have been shut down by the police a few times, but usually not.
For info on the motivations behind, the types of music played, etc see www.flashdance.org
For dinner guests, the Flash Dance will be at Ferry Plaza, a short walk from the dinner location
The BEST way to get to the Flashdance will be to take BART (to Embarcadero Station) from most neighborhoods, or bus or cab. BART stops running after midnight, so you can take it both ways.

Sunday Streets / Wedding

The wedding will happen at noon out front of our house at 937 Valencia St.
Starting 1 hour before the wedding & continuing on tip 4pm, Valencia Street will be closed off to cars, and opened to pedestrians, bicyclists, skaters, and everyone else.
The wedding will be a part of Sunday Streets itself.
Guest are encouraged to participate in & enjoy Sunday Streets before and after our wedding ceremony. Plan to walk, or bike (free 1 hr rentals (see here)), skate, or just sit and watch it all go by. There are activities at all health/enthusiasm levels, from listening to bands, to board games, to free yoga classes, to roller skating. Feel free to participate in as much or as little as you like.
Here is a map of just the PLANNED Sunday Streets events - this doesn’t cover all the unplanned ones!

Sunday Streets Events!

kimberlyland — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:23:30 -0400

Here is the whole list of the PLANNED activities at Sunday Streets! There will be MANY unplanned impromptu ones too (bands, demonstrations, games, etc)

http://www.deeptrouble.com/misc/Aug5Programs.pdf

Excellent stuff to roam around and check out before & and after our wedding at noon!

(Note the free Bike rental at Valencia between 14th & 15th!)

Saturday Bonus: Free Shakespeare In The Parklet

kimberlyland — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:16:11 -0400

For those of you not going on the Bike Parade, we’ve just learned that the San Francisco Shakespear Festival is planning on putting on 10 minute Shakespeare performance in our parklet :-) We won’t be there obviously, but it should be great :-)

It looks like they’ll be on at 1pm & doing a performance from Twelfth Night (see Day 11) below:

http://www.sfshakes.org/special/index.html

HOW COOL!

.ps We didn’t coordinate this with them, we just came outside the other day & found them rehearsing! :-)

Bike Rental Info for the Parade (& the Weekend)!

kimberlyland — Thu, 26 Jul 2012 19:35:55 -0400

Folks -

As promised, we’ve gotten some rental bikes for the Bike Parade on Saturday 8/4. Also we’ve collected a little info on other bike rental options both for the Saturday and for the weekend:

FOR SATURDAY: For those of you who RSVPed (on the form) we *should* have enough rental bikes available at our house - you’ll have to BRING $28.50 per bike & fill out some forms. It will be first come first served - so be prepared…
FOR SATURDAY OR MORE: Honestly, a bike is going to be the best way to get around for most of the weekend, but especially Saturday. Here are two options:
1. Find your own rental bike: Just Google “bicycle rental San Francisco” and a lot will come up.
2. These guys seem to be the cheapest daily rate ($22): Dylanstours.com
MOST INTRIGUING OPTION: The most intriguing & possibly cheapest option sounds like this person-to-person bike rental service called Spinlister.com. Check it out. I don’t know anyone who has used it, but it is what we’d try. Let us know if you do!

About Parking...

kimberlyland — Wed, 25 Jul 2012 19:22:00 -0400

We’ve purposely made our wedding easily accessible by public transportation, but realize some folks will still need to drive (and therefore park).

Please note that parking in the Mission is generally a challenge, and especially so during a popular event like Sunday Streets. We encourage you to walk, take BART (subway), or catch a Muni bus, walk, or bike to the festivities.

But for those who need to drive, here are tips for parking nearby:

Mission Bartlett Garage: (closest)
- 90 Bartlett St between 21st & 22nd St.
- $10
- All day (6:00 am to 6:00 pm) flat rate parking is available to vehicles entering between 6:00 am and 12:00 noon.
Street Parking (next best)
- The streets a few blocks west of ours, Dolores, Church, Sanchez, etc., might be your best bet.
- Be patient & leave plenty of time to drive around hunting.
- Check the signs where you park, but in general there are no meters on Sunday.
San Francisco General Hospital Parking Garage (LAST RESORT)
- This garage is FAR, but the good news is that if you park there, and leave 30 minutes to walk to our house, you can walk along the Sunday Streets route (up 24th to Valencia!)
- 2500 24th St
- $7
- All day (6:00 am to 6:00 pm) flat rate parking is available to vehicles entering between 6:00 am and 12:00 noon.

***As with all Sunday Streets events, the route will be towed of all cars starting at 7 a.m.***

Lyle (K’s mom!) used her design superpowers to create a...

kimberlyland — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 12:32:37 -0400

Lyle (K’s mom!) used her design superpowers to create a personalized version of our wedding invite for her friends!

The wedding may be great, it may be a colossal failure, but we...

kimberlyland — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 20:12:34 -0400

The wedding may be great, it may be a colossal failure, but we guarantee the best bunting you’ve ever seen!

Foreshadowing: Glitter. Always glitter.

kimberlyland — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 20:07:00 -0400

Foreshadowing: Glitter. Always glitter.

www.facebook.com/kimandeep For all you Facebook fans out there...

kimberlyland — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 05:01:37 -0400

www.facebook.com/kimandeep

For all you Facebook fans out there (we are!), we made a Facebook Page - feel free to like & share and write on it!

All the real wedding info will be here at this site, but we’ll cross post cute stuff to Facebook too!

Wedding Schedule Posted (At Long Last!)

kimberlyland — Thu, 21 Jun 2012 10:32:00 -0400

At long last we have the real schedule of wedding events posted! It has been quite a long slog trying to figure all this out (sooooo many details…. sooooo busy!) But it is all coming into focus & we’re getting excited again (rather than overwhelmed!)

Check it out under “Schedule!” & if you think you’ll attend any of it - it would be a BIG HELP if you fill out our quick questionnaire!

Attending any of our wedding events?

kimberlyland — Thu, 21 Jun 2012 04:47:00 -0400

Attending any of our wedding events?:

If you plan on attending any of our wedding events (see Schedule), it would be a HUGE help to know ahead of time what you’ll probably participate in so we can plan accordingly.

We’ve made it really easy for you to let us know (It’s quick! Painless! Hi-tech! And will earn you our gratitude!), simply read the basic outline of the weekend below & then answer the QUICK questions on our questionnaire (click here)!

Honestly, wedding planning has been a bit of a slog as of late...

kimberlyland — Sun, 13 May 2012 00:00:00 -0400

Kimberly Sneak Peek! (not wedding dress)

'Deep Sneak Peek!

Honestly, wedding planning has been a bit of a slog as of late (partially because we’re so behind!) but today was super fun! We went and bought wedding outfits. ’Deep’s wedding ceremony attire & Kimberly’s dance/reception attire!